Articles on 'Love & Relationship' ↓

Is anger stopping you from enjoying your relationship?

Does anger management just remind you that you need fixing? Do you feel guilty and defensive at the same time — knowing that you are hurting your spouse, and yet not wanting to own the identity that accompanies that judgment?

Do you feel torn between your anger and your desire to be more loving? If so, then you clearly want to change.

Are you willing to take one small but powerful step? Continue reading →

True love is our ideal. We desire it, and in our desire we want to possess it.

What could be more natural? True love, after all, is the most comforting and beautiful aspect of relationship. Who would not want to possess it?

But can you possess true love, and does this involve possessing the person you love? Or is true love somehow separate from your lover? Continue reading →

Are you married to or dating a person that controls you with emotional drama?

Is your partner so out of touch with themselves that the only way they can feel in control is by externalizing it; by trying to control you with their moods, their purposeful silence, and emotional outbursts? Continue reading →

Do you unintentionally imprison your spouse, or your girlfriend or boyfriend, with how you define them — or can they grow unrestricted by your conceptions and expectations?

Good relationships should be free to change, explore, and mature, without the drag of “the way we were.”

If you hold tight to fixed conceptions of your partner, you are holding them back from who they are becoming. They need to grow, and they can’t if you continually project your expectations that they remain the same. Continue reading →

Relationships are a heck of an arrangement aren’t they? They are the easiest things to get into, and the hardest to get out of.

And they are so complex. Have you noticed that? One moment you are crazy in love with this gorgeous person, and in the next, you find yourself cringing every time he lumbers across the room that you so gracefully waltz through, not knowing that his stomping gate is just his way of saying that he hates the way you emotionally castrate him. Continue reading →

Have you ever thought deeply about romantic love? Do we use the word love too freely? Is love really the tie that binds, or is it something else, something other than love that connects us so strongly?

We have asked this question about the nature of love for centuries. Surely we know the answer by now. But love is a slippery thing to catch hold of and describe, and, when we finally have it in our mind’s grasp, it’s possible that we aren’t at all comfortable with the answer.

So, because love is difficult to define, and because we might have some fear over what the answer will mean for our relationships, let’s first talk about what love is not. Then, what remains might be love. Continue reading →