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Does sexual desire interfere with your ability to love someone unconditionally?

For some reason, the majority of emails I receive are about relationship issues, and the concept of unconditional love. It seems that many people have difficulty loving unconditionally within a sexual relationship. Several readers have recently asked for my thoughts on reconciling the two.

Because of this confluence of concern arriving in my Inbox, I’ve decided to post one of my responses here. Perhaps it can serve as food for thought to others who question the compatibility of unconditional love with sexual relations. So here is an extract from a recent letter, and my response:

This letter (in brief) comes from Brad in New Hampshire. Continue reading →

The clouds were low; silver-grey with blushes of violet to the west, and an intense blue-grey to the east. It was 1994, and spring was about to bless us with some needed rain.

“The garden will love it,” Rosemarie said. I agreed, though not with the same hard-won conviction as my Wife’s, after all, it was Rosemarie who created our garden and it was she who mainly toiled in it.

We had a large garden (and still do) filled with plenty of delicious raspberries, gooseberries, currants of all sorts, and most of the vegetables we needed for the year ahead. For Rosemarie, the garden was her labor of love; her way of connecting to life at its purest, and to who she is at heart.

It was a quiet day, and every living thing seemed to be in their own separate world, including us. I was taking a break from a new painting I was working on, Rosemarie was finishing some planting, and the ravens were dive-bombing Jones, our black cat.
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True love is our ideal. We desire it, and in our desire we want to possess it.

What could be more natural? True love, after all, is the most comforting and beautiful aspect of relationship. Who would not want to possess it?

But can you possess true love, and does this involve possessing the person you love? Or is true love somehow separate from your lover? Continue reading →

Jamie from Australia recently wrote, asking:

I have just read your article, I Love You, and I’m curious to know what you think about this: Is it possible for a person to truly and unconditionally love two people at the same time?

I thought only a parent-child love relationship is unconditional. It is very difficult to find a man-woman relationship that is unconditional. Am I right to say that? Does pure love really exist? Have you come across a man or woman who is able to tolerate their loved one loving another person without any feeling of unhappiness, envy, or jealousy?

Well Jamie, my definition of love knows no bounds. Yes, a person can be “in love with” more than one person at the same time — absolutely.

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The words “I love you,” are powerful; we safeguard them; we hold them sacred. Would it be weird then to say, “I love everyone?”

I do though. I love you all. Each and every one of you has your own personal brand of beauty, and I love you dearly for it.

Strength, beauty, and goodness, is in everyone and — I get it — I see it — I feel it. It stretches itself to be recognized no matter how swamped it is with anger, stress, addiction, distraction, and sadness. It is undiminished.

Your beauty, goodness, and light, is eternal and it will never give in to darkness. It was there before you were born and regardless of how you live your life, it will be there after you are gone. It is your essence — your true self — and it is what I love and see in your presence.

So there you have it. I have confessed and exposed myself. I am deeply in love with you.

My wish is that you can see and understand why I feel this way; that you will see yourself for who you really are; that you will sense the magic within, and feel the light and beauty that lives, breathes, and creates, in your soul.

These are the aspects of you that I love, and I want you to love them too.

You are truly beautiful.