Melissa: Yes, you are right, far too many people hold themselves back or are held back because because they fear that speaking up will result in losing the relationship. The reality is: unless we speak up we will lose the relationship. Some people feel that as long as they sleep in the same bed, they still have a relationship. It’s sad to see it happen.

Bamboo: Thanks. When I was writing this, the analogy of the movie seemed to develop all on its own. No matter how we might like to freeze-frame a relationship, time moves on. The only thing we have to work with is this moment — right now.

Monica: Sometimes I want to shake people and tell them to work on their stuff together, support one another in growing and in dealing with life. There are deep rewards for doing that. Instead, I see so many people arguing without listening, and then leaving their relationship as a result — and then having to repeat the process all over again from scratch with someone new. The same lessons wait for them it seems.

Thanks,
John