Category Archives: Emotions & Attitude

Nature’s Cure for the Blues


Over the past while I have been feeling a bit down. My life is on a cusp of change, but I am spinning my wheels. Do you know what I mean? Have you felt like that?

Old patterns are relentless, but new vistas are enticing me with beautiful and powerful images. The stress of living in a redundant mental space is wearing on me. I want to move forward, but I am caught by habit.

What to do? Well, whenever I am confronted with stasis — when I feel stuck in a lifeless rut — I return to the basics. And what can be more basic than nature? Nature has balance and it moves gracefully with change. Nature can stimulate us likewise, to regain our balance, and to accept change in stride as we move through life.

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Unconditional Love versus Sexual Desire

Freedom ... painting by John RocheleauAre sex and friendship compatible? Will having sex with a friend destroy your unconditional love?

Relationship issues, sexual desire, and how to love unconditionally, comprise the majority of emails that I receive. Most people, it seems, have difficulty loving unconditionally within a sexual relationship, or coming to terms with their sexual feelings for a friend.

Here is an extract from a recent letter from Brad in New Hampshire, and my response: Continue reading

Do Good and Evil Exist?


This morning I woke up wondering about good and evil. I wondered if goodness exists apart from human perception and religious concepts. I wondered the same about evil. Does evil dwell somewhere in the universe, independent of our judgment and imagination?

We use the words good and evil in pairs. Are we implying that one cannot exist without the other? If so, are we saying that the yin/yang of human perception is an absolute truth; that there is no ultimate goodness or ultimate evil; just an eternal tug-o-war? Continue reading

Sunshine Comes Softly

Today is a soft and sunshiny day and I want to share it with you. It isn’t officially spring yet where I live, but through the window today, the sky is blue and winter’s colors are gradually moving out of phase.

Green shoots and flowers-to-be are pushing through the brown of winter, the birds are creating homes, and the sun is caressing my heart–reminding me of all things possible, bright, and beautiful.

Winter is gray where I live. And I feel winter’s grayness because it reflects the low clouds that swirl within me; the socked-in system of unreconciled emotion.

But the sun is shining now. I feel its warmth. I see its clear light. There is nothing more beautiful than the warm rays of sunshine in the winter of your heart.

Do you feel it also?

Satisfaction For Sale

Detail of painting by John Rocheleau

Detail of painting by John Rocheleau

Satisfaction is our strongest urge. The desire to satisfy ourselves motivates everything we do in one way or another.

Our self-gratification reflex is not well thought out though. Our choices while under the influence of this intoxicating human imperative are often unwise. Short sighted satisfaction may be easy but it’s not cheap, and willing or not, the debt is always collected. Our drive to satisfy ourselves can then seriously damage us.
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