Learning how to give space in a relationship is vital to a happy, secure, and trusting relationship, and like anything of value, it requires focused effort. Falling in love is the easy part. Making a relationship work requires trust and understanding far beyond what you might think. Continue reading
Life is… let me think a minute about my personal meaning of life… alright then, here’s a picture for you: life is a ball of tangled elastic bands with something really special buried deep inside. The lure is to find the hidden treasure.
Life is a mystery, full of enticing next steps to take.
Like those cereal boxes when I was a kid, with the baking soda powered toy SUBMARINE FREE INSIDE (you’d have to be a certain age to remember that one). Well, It was a hook and who could resist? Continue reading
The clouds were low; silver-grey with blushes of violet to the west, and an intense blue-grey to the east. It was 1994, and spring was about to bless us with some needed rain.
“The garden will love it,” Rosemarie said. I agreed, though not with the same hard-won conviction, after all, it was she who mostly worked our garden.
It was a large garden filled with plenty of delicious raspberries, gooseberries, currants of all sorts, and most of the vegetables we needed for the year ahead. For Rosemarie, the garden was her labor of love; her way of connecting to life at its purest, and to who she is at heart.
Over the past while I have been feeling a bit down. My life is on a cusp of change, but I am spinning my wheels. Do you know what I mean? Have you felt like that?
Old patterns are relentless, but new vistas are enticing me with beautiful and powerful images. The stress of living in a redundant mental space is wearing on me. I want to move forward, but I am caught by habit.
What to do? Well, whenever I am confronted with stasis — when I feel stuck in a lifeless rut — I return to the basics. And what can be more basic than nature? Nature has balance and it moves gracefully with change. Nature can stimulate us likewise, to regain our balance, and to accept change in stride as we move through life.
And so we went on a camping trip. Continue reading
Are sex and friendship compatible? Will having sex with a friend destroy your unconditional love?
Relationship issues, sexual desire, and how to love unconditionally, comprise the majority of emails that I receive. Most people, it seems, have difficulty loving unconditionally within a sexual relationship, or coming to terms with their sexual feelings for a friend.
Here is an extract from a recent letter from Brad in New Hampshire, and my response: Continue reading